Dear Seaturtle:

Adding to “I would ask him all the time, ‘is this what you want?” and he was irritated by that question. I tried to ask him how things I did made him feel and he literally did not know how to answer those questions“-

– I still have trouble stating what I want, and get uncomfortable when asked! I had trouble with answering how I feel for ages while NOT on weed or any other drug. My reason: I dissociated too much from myself, burying much of myself in a scary box (your term).  My mother was too.. narcissistic (I, ME and MINE), among other things, to allow my feelings to exist in the open. Could have been his mother fulfilling that taking-over/ dominating role.. Similar to your father in this way of taking-over, I-Me and MINE..?

anita