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Dafne
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Dear Tee,

Thank you for your compassion, understanding & supporting me in my future plans & decisions πŸ™ ❀️

I’m not sure how those emoticons work but I found them at my phone keypad. You might need to install them separately. With or without them, I can feel your kind heart offering so much warmth & the way you speak brightens my day πŸŒΌπŸ€—

Tee, I hope you are feeling better now and enjoying the beautiful spring time.

I’ve watched your video about the narcissistic people & their pets. It explains a lot really. It makes sense now why my father behaves this way. Not many people are aware of that dynamic and generalise (just like me before) that all dog lovers are good people to everybody.

At least now thanks to you, I know that it’s not true & I should never find excuses for his behaviour. And also not to blame myself all the time.

You’re right he did lots of damage in my life & still no change after all these years.

I was quite sensitive and shy as a small girl so there was no way for me to express myself freely. I had to be quite and hide in my room to avoid the conflict & the constant fights.

Maybe my personality as a child contributed to the fact that I can’t cope with life or romantic relationships in my adult life?

I know that some children were more stronger than me (especially those with siblings) and kept going, married early and broke contact with their abusive family members. I wasn’t that strong & I was always afraid to hurt them & say or do something wrong.

It was hard to be a child. I never spoke about my childhood with my potential dates as I could scare them away & also did not want to talk negatively about my family.

But maybe you’re right that one day, with the right person it could still be possible to share. For the moment I’m not ready to do that…

I hope everything is ok with you Tee. This life is not an easy journey and being emotional doesn’t always help us.

Please take care of yourself & hope to have your news. Thank you again! πŸ™

Big hug πŸ«‚