Hi Tee

Some people don’t find their way out of depression and despair. It really is a battle. I think you did an amazing job fighting through that. I wish everyone could!

know when I first got ill, I was in denial about the impact mental health can have on our bodies. It is a hard lesson to learn. I think society doesn’t fully understand it. Because of the experiences you’ve had and all of your knowledge and tenacity you were able to address it fairly quickly. It took me much longer.

I’m sorry to hear that you felt like that. I can empathise, I did too for a long time and then I stopped worrying about it with my health because I thought that I couldn’t have children. I won’t pry because I know that these things can be very painful for people. But you are welcome to share anything you choose and also welcome not to. For what it’s worth, I think you’re an incredible person. Your empathy and kindness are out of this world!

Being a new parent has changed my perspective on things because I’ve definitely found it to be incredibly challenging at times, especially when he was younger. It’s probably one of the hardest things I’ve done. The screaming early on was very hard for me, and the sleep disturbances and the sheer amount of work. But it is getting easier now thankfully. No more evening screaming, only waking a couple of times a night and now I’ve recovered from the surgery my husband is able to help out and give me a break. Now, the difficulties are more practical. Finding the time to study, teaching him to take a bottle.

I have more empathy for the mistakes that my parents made raising me. I was lucky in that I’ve had a lot of therapy over the years. I’m a lot older than my biological mother was when she had us. And I was lucky enough to have a husband and medical care and additional therapy to help with the trauma that emerged related to the birthing process and childhood trauma that reared it’s head being a new parent. And these are newer things that help. They didn’t exist before. And not everyone can access help for various reasons. And even the time off work to deal with this isn’t an option for some people depending on the country. Even if some of the circumstances had only been slightly different for me. I don’t know how I would have managed.

I don’t understand how single parents or people with multiple children manage. I really was very very lucky.

Wishing you all the best! 🙏❤️