Dear Anita,

Thank you for the quick response.

i have actually thought about asking him directly as you suggested but then realized i dont want to do it over text cause people could make somethings up vs facing him in a 1-1 conversation when he visits the country this summer. Do you believe people change? or do you agree that this is just how toxic relationships work?
i truly dont want to hurt him so im not communicating with him cause im confused and i dont want to lead him into something thats not clear/uncertain. but do you think i should communicate a bit to test the waters or thats not necessary?

thank you