Dear Anita

makes total sense and crystal clear.

yes i tried to ask him once about his life he said he made new friends he goes hiking now (which he resisted to do with me back home earlier ) he chnaged jobs, he goes to the gym every now and then, etc so i felt like he tried to some extent to exhibit change.

yes please i was about to ask you for your suggestions regarding best topics/questions to approach him with if possible. I might ping him end of this week as its also his birthday so it might be a good conversation opener.

Dear Roberta,

Thats true but someone can send a text because they have taken a deep look at their lives, themselves,etc and figured out what they really want in life and someone else could send the same text just because they couldnt find anyone to date them again and so its out of despiration or just familiarity. Not sure how to test this/get clarity on this. Personally speaking, i didnt find anyone to date over the past 3 years but i never texted him cause i know he is familiar and sparking anything means im just going back to whats known and out of despiration.could be just a different approach to life, im not sure