Dear Anita

makes total sense and crystal clear.

yes i tried to ask him once about his life he said he made new friends he goes hiking now (which he resisted to do with me back home earlier ) he chnaged jobs, he goes to the gym every now and then, etc so i felt like he tried to some extent to exhibit change.

yes please i was about to ask you for your suggestions regarding best topics/questions to approach him with if possible. I might ping him end of this week as its also his birthday so it might be a good conversation opener.