Hi Blueman

I’m sorry to hear that you broke up with your girlfriend after 1.5 months. You mentioned anxiety and negative thinking being problems in the relationship and described yourself as boring and inauthentic. You regret it and are feeling guilty and ashamed now.

You do sound like you are being hard on yourself. Anxiety lies to us, and by it’s nature is a form of self abuse. When another person abuses us it’s easier to set boundaries. But what to do when it is yourself?

The answer lies in self-compassion. Practice being kind to yourself. What would you say to a good friend in the same position?

Take some time to practice self-care. Relax. Stop beating yourself up. Relationships end. Sometimes things are just not meant to be.

Unless there is something awful that you are leaving out and need to get off your chest?

What helps move past guilt and regret is to learn from my mistakes. Reflect and learn how to not repeat the same mistakes. Apologise sincerely if anyone was hurt. And after reflecting understand your circumstances and context. Why did you behave in that way? Show yourself compassion for your mistakes. To err is human.

Wishing you all the best! ❤️🙏