Hi Seaturtle

Ah so you always had something to do growing up. Perhaps this is why sometimes there is a feeling when you don’t have something to do?

I’m sorry to hear that you haven’t been doing art because of your roommate. Does she treat you any differently if you do make a mess for a few days?

My mother was very arty. As a person she was very tidy, but her art corner in the kitchen was always messy and always there. It would be nice for you to have the freedom to do something like that if you wanted. I would suggest having a deep conversation with your roommate. You should be allowed to do art, something you love, it is your house too. Perhaps if there is something that she would like the freedom to do, that could be a part of the conversation?

I can understand that, people change, relationships change and they don’t necessarily stay in your life forever.

For me, it is family and a moral decision to stay in contact. If it was just myself, I wouldn’t be in contact. But I have a son and it would hurt the person not to be allowed to see him.

That’s a very good insight about your mother oversharing!

I’m sure that in time you will find a suitable therapist. You do have time, so it makes sense to find someone that fits.

Regarding your friend. I did wonder if she had adhd or autism when you mentioned that she talked a lot. It’s not an excuse, it’s a serious condition and part of who she is. She will never be able to talk less, so please give her some grace and understand that she doesn’t mean to be rude. Imagine how difficult it is for her to hear from many people how they don’t like something that is a large part of her and that she has no control over. This is a difficulty that she will face.

It does sound like she is just suffering from depression during the worst year of her life, it’s potentially going to be difficult for her to control her negativity. When you tire of it, I suggest taking some time for away for yourself. That way she can take care of herself and you can take care of yourself.

Love and best wishes! 🙏❤️