Dear Nate:

You are welcome!

“you can shed some light for me“- I’ll try and I’ll get straight to what I see. You are welcome to let me know if you see what I see, partly or not at all:

“I want a girl who knows what she wants, absolutely doesn’t need me but chooses me, brave, unwavering, unique, a fighter, determined, fiery, and passionate about her purpose… I’m really always in my own space doing what I want, when I want, how I want, with who I want and I like it like that“- (1) Statistically speaking, your expectations are very high, not only for women your age (21) but for women who are 31, 41, 51, etc. (2) Seems like you are afraid of a woman who is less than exceptionally independent because her neediness will take away your independence. I wonder if you grew up with a needy parent who rained on your parade, so to speak, burdening you with her/ his neediness..?

anita