Hi Renn

I’m sorry to hear that your boyfriend is extremely jealous, moody and judgemental. It’s going to hear that he is funny and generally kind.

Do you think that he is a net positive or negative in your life? My view is that relationships should enhance your life. If the relationship is consistently making you unhappy that is a bad thing. If it’s an occasional thing, well couples argue.

Attempting to change someone would be a bad thing. But relationships do involve communicating boundaries and finding a compromise.

We all have problems, unhealthy behaviours are normalised and permeate society. But what is important is if you communicate a problem, do they try to work on the things that you ask? Have you tried talking to him about any of this? I imagine it is difficult because you mentioned he can be moody and this dissuades you from talking about things. It might still be important to try if you haven’t already.

You are young and it is okay if you don’t feel like you are compatible. There are going to be plenty more opportunities for both of you out there. You don’t have to force it, sometimes you can care for someone and even love them and they can still be the wrong person for you.

What do your feelings tell you? The most important thing is to listen to yourself. Quite often people already know how they feel.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏