Dear t:

“I have repeatedly told him just to tell me if he doesn’t want to do something. He will insist that he doesn’t have any doubts and was giving a legitimate excuse, until I push harder and he admits that he had a lot of concerns about my plans. Then we had a conversation about why I want him to be more straightforward with me, and he says he thinks that’s reasonable and will try harder… My boyfriend isn’t mature enough…  I’m not sure that any of my thoughts are wrong.“- seems to me that your thoughts are not wrong. There is something unbelievable in him shifting from.. basically lying to saying he’ll try harder: try harder to be honest?

Seems like his dishonesty (a limited kind of dishonesty, I understand, in the context of giving excuses and not revealing the truth to you) is a habit on his part. Habits are difficult to break even when one is trying.

anita