Hi Taiga

I have a friend who is married who had been with his girlfriend for a long time, he knew about her issues with sex. It is very painful for her so she doesn’t do it. Despite this, they love each other, are happy and stay together.

He has sex elsewhere. He has a rule that he will never develop feelings for another person and it is just sex. This is because he deeply loves his partner.

It sounds like you didn’t know about her issues with sex before you married her? That is very difficult and a betrayal because you were lied to about it. Tricked into a marriage that you didn’t knowingly choose. But um people have reasons for not being honest. Maybe she felt ashamed and that you would leave her? Or that she was just unaware because she was a virgin at marriage?

I don’t think that she would want you to feel bad about yourself. The rejection is painful but it sounds like this situation is nothing to do with you. It is her situation that she has.

It is up to you how you want to handle this situation. Whether you should seek sex elsewhere or to end the marriage.

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏