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February 11, 2014 at 9:47 am #50775CortneyParticipant
Hi,
This is my first time posting on here but I’ve been reading a lot of the articles and they help a lot. I’ve just been very anxious lately and I kinda feel stuck and I wonder what the purpose of this is? It feels pointless. I go to a very tough school where we do rotations between school and internships every 3 months, I live alone on my internships and I hardly see people and I’m not happy with my job.. I just am not happy. I feel so anxious almost all the time, I cause fights between me and my boyfriend. And honestly I need advice on my relationship too because I just feel out of control. We’ve been dating for almost 8 months and we’ve been through some tough times, but overall we’ve gotten pretty close. However, I think my moods have caused a strain that might not be fixable. He’s very outgoing and I’m only outgoing with people I’m comfortable with, so often I would just be on Tumblr in his bed or room while he played video games or socialized and he made me feel down about it because he was down about it. now we are long distance because he graduated and got a job 5 hours away from my current internship and we fight a lot. Mostly because of me. I saw he was texting some girl from online (she lives very far away) but he was saying that he isn’t in love with me, but he loves me. So I’m just so lost.. I don’t know what to do…
-A very confused 19 year old 🙁
February 11, 2014 at 12:38 pm #50785ChainaParticipantHi! <3
At least i would say: You are the most important person in your life and the time of studying can be a real challenge. I am also doing my best to finish my studies experiencing the alonenes, stuckness, meaninglessness and anxiety, overwhelming me again and again. I like these six questions about how to change your life. I feel they have a potential to really create changes if we just go deeper into it, maybe allow it to work for us over a longer period. I think its hard to be in a relationship when we are not happy with ourselves even though we might be so much longing for being met and seen and just being cosy together. How we can love ourselves or others when we are not happy? I think we have to find our own happiness. Its not so easy for a partner to be totally loving and understanding and clear-seing towards us all the time as long as he also might just be a “natural” wounded unconscious product of his upbringing and sosiety. And don`t put the hole responsibility for the relationship on your own shoulders. We are here to learn and to grow into more understanding and loving (compassionate) behaviour towards ourselves and others and that might sometimes create frictions.
I think its great that you share! With all my love when fear is not here!
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