Hi Annie,
I feel so sorry about your story. I think you’re a romantic and courageous girl. You must be deeply hurt, heartbroken and despaired now. You don’t know the reason for breakup. You can’t give up a relationship that took you 3 years to invest and keep. I Will share my story to you. My ex lives in another city 3 hrs away. She broke up with me just before Vday. So I made the full preparation to meet her in her place. But I didn’t tell her I would come. The valentine’s night, which was the worst in my life, I kept waiting for her at her place for the whole night and she didn’t show up. The next day she told me she was out of town…I didn’t get a chance to see her or even have a call with her.

I really appreciate your courage to fly to Japan to visit your bf. However, the fact is that he won’t be moved by your action. If he decided to break up, there must be some reason. Since you’ve been together for 3 years, the reason must come from many issues in your life rather than just one simple thing. Another fact is that you can not change his mind by doing something. Only he can decide his mind. If he feels regret in the future, he will contact you and come back. Otherwise, it’s just you are hurting yourself.

Birthdays or anniversaries are so terrible after breakup. You will always think that it is supposed to be a splendid day. But now the day becomes painful. I know the feeling. I’m also afraid of my ex’s birthday in just less than 2 weeks. Last year it was so good and so memorable. But this year, it can’t be worse. Since you still have 2 months time, I would suggest you just move on. After 2 months, you won’t have the pain today. Time heals all wounds. But if you still decide to visit him, there’s a big chance that your wound will open again. If you love him, set him free. If he loves you back, he will back. Otherwise, just move on.

BTW, I come from Shanghai. Welcome to Shanghai. I think at this moment you know what to do. Your suggestions to Albana are also the suggestions to yourself. hangout with friends, travel to somewhere and don’t stay at home alone. Hope you will get better soon.