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Hi Csaba,
It must’ve taken you a huge amount of courage to open up with such honesty to a group of strangers. This is something in itself that you must give yourself credit for.
You are evidently a loving, kind, honest sensitive soul with a lot of love to give and that is so refreshing to find in this 21st century self obsessed Western world that so many of us live in.
The best advice that I can personally give you is to find peace with yourself and to be yourself. Ask yourself if you are deserving of love? The answer should be yes. The next question, is the next girl that you’re attracted to deserving of your love? If she only wants to date you because you have a good paying job, nice car or suit, the answer is no. These are all superficial things that we desire to have, but do not change us as a person. Love is accepting,respectful,trusting and strong. You need to find these qualities in yourself before you can enter a relationship. Can you accept yourself with little money? An old suit rather than a new one? Can you respect another person’s point of view the same way they accept yours? Can you be honest? And can you truly be yourself without the need of another person’s love? The answer for all of these should be yes!
Finally, be patient. I hear you sighing as you read this last bit, but please believe me. Enjoy a girl’s company without thinking if this could be ” your great love”. Girls can smell desperation and it is a turn off for most. The only girls that will stick around are the ones that don’t love themselves and who are looking for love from you. They’ll be very insecure and will be quite needy. This will probably be a turn off for you!
I’m 35 and have been single for 3 years now, I’ve been in only one big relationship and never married. Of course I have days where my heart longs for love, but I know it’ll happen one day and I’m going to take time enjoying my company, exploring this beautiful world that we live in and making lots of memories and friends along the way until I meet someone who wants to share their life with mine.
Life is short, so make the most of it. Why not spend some time making some memories of your own? They’ll be perfect to tell the girl of your dreams when you’re snuggled up in front of the fire one day 🙂
With love
Karen x