Hi Tinyzebra,

I’ve had similar experiences and found it very difficult. It takes a while to work through this. There is the actual other person, and to some degree there is the attachment part. You can do your best you can do it all but the other person has to care and commit, and sometimes that does not happen no matter how much we want it or need it or work at it. Letting go of the person and the idea of the relationship are hard to do, but it is possible.

It helps to focus on yourself, your values, your interests, your life. Reframe the situation in the context of your life in the big world. Think big, forward thoughts. Read inspiring authors. Get out and be with strong, positive people. Take on some new challenges. Be kind and compassionate with yourself. In other words live your life.

Big blue