Sassy,

A little nagging itch, eh? Sounds like addiction to me, and not healthy. Consider he turned your body on something fierce, and the wounds are still pretty fresh… so getting urges is normal, usual. How many junkies get that itch and say “oh, just one more hit, just one more will be fine.”

Attend something else, dear sister… your breath, a hobby, your boyfriend. Wounds don’t heal if you keep picking at them. Exs don’t lose their control of us if we don’t take their pictures down off the walls of our home.

Still having some bedroom disappointment with the BF? This “feeling” of wanting to be with the ex may be filial lust, wanting some satisfaction from an inappropriate partner. Turn away, sis! Red flags are waving!

With warmth,
Matt

Dear Sassy,
I know exactly how you feel. I’ve been in that situation and found my own way out of it. Everybody has a different path and so I will share with you what helped me.
I remeber how my last ex made me feel. It was amazing. A few weeks after we had broken up I still had feelings for her and I could not shake them off. My heart and my brain disagreed with each other. What helped me was a moment of peace and silence. I stood there by myself and let go of every thought. No, I did not follow my thoughts nor did I follow my heart. I dismissed them both. Only when they are no longer a factor can you hear the soft voice of your intuition. Odd though it may seem I recommend finding that soothing voice of your own intuition and following the advice it gives you, for better or worse. Only then will you have no regrets.