Hi Miguel / Michaelangelo

Thanks for your post.

You can become a real man once you have sorted your thoughts, feelings and emotions out. From your post, it is clear that you do not think very highly of yourself. Hey, when you do not feel awesome about yourself, is there anyone else in the world who can think otherwise about you ? NO.

Learn to give some respect to yourself.

The changes that you are looking for all start with a simple step of accepting Michaelangelo as he is. Once you accept yourself as you are, you will be able to work on things that need improvement. However, it is important to note that you are a perfect creation of this Universe like all of us. Somewhere along the path from birth till date, you have lost your true essence of existence and become someone else, who is not happy in his own skin, yeah ?

Please be mindful that talking, ruminating, complaining, whining etc are all easy way out. To make a lasting positive change, we need to take an action, which is consistent and focussed. I will provide a simple list of things that you can engage in to flip your life around for the better. You sound like a young soul so take it easy 🙂

1. Be kind to yourself. Show some respect for self and for your parents who have brought such a beautiful creature into this world. Think of some lovely things to tell yourself each day no matter how small they are.

2. For bad hygiene issue, you can start with baby steps of looking after your physical appearance: Have daily showers, brush your teeth twice daily, use perfume or cologne, change to fresh clothing everyday, get into the habit of doing laundry 2-3 times a week if you do not have enough clothes to last you a week, shaving facial hair as required etc. It doesn’t take a lot of effort to look good or feel good. When you feel good, you look good !!!!

2. Gynaecomastia – is there a medical reason for this condition or it is just man boobs you are talking about ? If it is just some flab, exercise and good nutrition should do the trick for you. Begin with cardio – 20 mins of running, cross training, rowing or jogging 2-3 times a week and add some weights into the programme when you have crossed the 4th week mark. You can target the chest muscles or you can work on every muscle of the body when you commence weights. You can ask a personal trainer for a session to help you out with this or you can check out the you tube on how to tone “pectoral muscles”.

3. Laziness – Start with some goal setting such as: include exercising in your schedule; feed your body good nutrition atleast 3-4 times a week; work on positive thinking by practicing positive affirmations and reading articles on same; offer gratitude daily; work on home work from Uni or school daily rather than leave it until the last minute etc.

4. No girls / dependent / immature – Being immature and dependent is not a good combination for attracting a good girl into your life. Getting a GF should be your last priority. Focus on your well being first. If you are healthy physically, mentally, emotionally and financially, getting a girl wont be too hard. However, it is not all about getting a girl. You should aim to find a good partner, who will complement you and your values so that you can both grow together in life.

5. Hunched back – is often due to prolonged poor posture (I am assuming that you do not have an underlying bony or muscular congenital abnormalities). Learn to sit straight with your bottom close to the end of the chair at the back. Again, there are you tube videos that can teach you to sit properly. There are various posture correction exercises that you can engage in and getting help from a physiotherapist on this will be the most beneficial. It takes a lot of effort to get your posture correct so have patience.

6. All the qualities that you are looking for should come easy once you can take some actions in the first 5 categories. It all starts with an action. Take baby steps and over the next 1-2 years, you should be able to turn your life around for the better. Money, cars and success will follow if you can get a good education (either trade based or Uni based) so work on that as well.

Good luck.

Jasmine