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December 1, 2014 at 8:58 pm #68633
I am sorry for what has transpired. I know it is a difficult phase that you are going through and some days are going to be good and some days not so good. However, you gotta keep your head above the water and aim for the best.
Sometimes not getting what you want or desire is the BIGGEST blessing you can get from the Universe. I have had so many such blessings in my life and I am so grateful for whoever is watching over me. I know the same being is watching over you.
Hang in there and live in the present moment. Do things that make you sing and dance in joy. Forget about the past and don’t stress about the future. What we do today is determining every second in the future. So make your NOW the best and your future will be bright. Your dreams will unfold right in front of you if you let them.
And one more thing: If a guy who claims to love you but is not willing to sacrifice anything for that love (regardless of culture differences etc), is he worth spending any more tears on ? NO. A beautiful life awaits you. Go make something good out of it 🙂 Do anything but just go out and do it !!!!!
Sending you heaps of love and positive energy. I know you are going to be just fine.
JasmineOctober 23, 2014 at 8:40 pm #66716
Thanks Steve. Exactly what I would say to Bill 🙂
Bill, Accept whatever life hands you with a smile and blind faith in your self. I guarantee you that you won’t have any further regrets. It is when we run after things with endless logic (or intellect) that life gets very complicated and painful.
Try and do some selfless service to bring more clarity in life such as – feeding the homeless kids or adults, providing clothes for those who don’t have any, watering the plants and serving the deserted animals, looking after elderly people, offering smiles to every individual you meet, helping someone cross a road, helping someone in need with no expectations in return etc.
Positive energy coming your way matey. You deserve all the calm and peace that you heart desires and your happiness may actually lie in helping people or animals / nature with no expectations in return (esp those who are missing out on basic survival needs). 🙂
JasmineOctober 23, 2014 at 8:31 pm #66715
I am sorry for your leg injury and hope you are feeling better.
It is natural to feel disappointed when you don’t get what you wish for but sometimes, there are significant blessings hidden in these disappointing acts of life. I feel you should cheer up and thank Universe for granting you this disappointment. In due time, the blessings will become obvious if you keep a positive attitude of gratitude.
Say Yes to the Universe. Welcome everything, which comes into your life esp when you do not have control over these situations. You can handle it all.
Get well soon matey and cheer up with a big smile.
JasmineOctober 19, 2014 at 4:43 pm #66492October 19, 2014 at 4:36 pm #66491
What an awesome journey you have had ? Amazing !!!
Welcome to NZ. Again, what a place to be in. Have you been to Queenstown as yet ?
One way to know that you are growing spiritually is when people’s questions don’t excite or anger you to the tenth degree. You are able to maintain your inner calm and peace. So congrats on progressing this far.
As for your question – Just simply say, “I appreciate your concern but I don’t feel comfortable sharing this information with you. Can we talk about something else ?” Most often, people will get the message and move away from this line of questioning. It is really up to us as to how much we wish to reveal.
You don’t have to be an open book story. People become open book stories when they are dealing with a lot of issues and need attention. When you feel the calm and peace, you just want to focus on the present and what today has to offer, yeah ? Well, this has been my experience. I still share the authentic version of me with people but I pick and choose the place / time. I don’t lie so I choose silence over verbal diarrhoea in most situations nowadays 🙂 Unfortunately, majority of the people around us are not on the self awareness journey so it becomes tricky when they want to bombard you with insensitive questions.
Hang in there and enjoy your space in NZ. You are in heaven now 🙂
JOctober 19, 2014 at 12:50 am #66447
You have to live your own life so if you keep worrying about what others will think, you will keep ruining your TODAY.
Lets make something very simple and clear for you. People are not negative. You attract what you are feeling inside. So if you are not wanting to associate with negative people, change your thought pattern. Start being kind to yourself and start radiating love and kindness. What we give out, we get back multi-fold. Give love, receive love. Give negativity, receive negativity. Give gossip and receive gossip. If you don’t believe me, trial it out. Nature and Universal laws are very simple. We make our lives complicated with our ignorance and arrogance. Learn to rise above this.
Online education is an excellent idea but then you are running away from the truth. You cant hide in your house and have a heaven like life with hubby. Eventually, you will have to face your fears, people and negativity. Until we learn our life lessons, life will keep throwing curve balls one after another. So why run ? Lets face whatever life has to hand to us. We can handle it, cant we ?
I am not sure which country you live in. If you google online courses, I am sure you will find something useful in your own country or around.
Think about it. Be kind to yourself woman !!!!!!
JOctober 19, 2014 at 12:40 am #66446
Ha Ha @minismita. I forgot all about Rafiki lol.
Now that you have raised a valid point – “I know what you mean, keep my calm and move forward, but at times it gets difficult when people like these don’t want to leave you at peace, at any cost” – let me share an important lesson with you so that you can keep moving forward.
People are merely our reflections. They are our mirrors. What goes inside you gets projected outside in the people that share your energy space….in this case, your lovely flatmate !!! Lets be honest here ok….have you got over the fact that you are still single at 32 and all the other issues that this flatmate has raised ? Could this actually be your inner film ? Only you can answer this for yourself. Until you learn the lessons, you will keep facing such people wherever you go. Change the inner film and people outside will change to reflect that. Others are not the one who are trying to ruin your peace. YOU and YOUR thoughts are the culprit. Take ownership and watch them so that you can work on them and avoid such scenarios in the future.
Think about it, my friend. Life and people are too wonderful to cause havoc in our life. We create everything and every person around us. If you are not liking what is showing outside, change the inner script 🙂
JOctober 19, 2014 at 12:32 am #66445
Hi Michael @indyblue
Lovely flower will bloom soon. Have faith in yourself and start sowing the seed of love and kindness 🙂
JasmineOctober 18, 2014 at 5:03 am #66414
I am sorry that you find yourself in this predicament. We should always do what makes us happy. Sometimes, we think that by following our short term dream is good enough and we forget about the long term happiness and evolving with times.
The most important questions that you need to ask yourself are: Who are you trying to convince ? What are the pros and cons of not finishing your degree or education while you are still young and vibrant ?
Always remember that life can change in a second and does change in seconds whether we like it or not. The only thing, which keeps us from drowning in sorrows is our ability to look after ourselves. If you are able to look after yourself today independent of others and until the day you die (in all aspects – socially, physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually) you are in good hands. Go and do whatever takes your fancy. However, if your answer is NO, then you need to do some serious soul searching. And no one can help you with this soul searching as everyone is on their own journey. Some people will agree with your decision and some will not but no one (including husband or father) can walk your path except for yourself.
JOctober 18, 2014 at 4:31 am #66411
I am so sorry for your suffering. I don’t have any words, which will lighten the load of your heart ache. However, from my life experiences, I can assure you one thing: What is yours no one can take it away from you and what is not yours, no one can give it to you despite all efforts or struggles. You have tried your best and now leave it to the Universe to figure out what is good for your highest good. Have faith in your higher self. It will never let you astray nor will it let any unhappiness stay in your life for too long. Keep looking for the blessings in this difficult time as they will help to raise you above the line.
JasmineOctober 18, 2014 at 4:21 am #66410
Hey Network7 @minismita
What people do is their business. What you do is your business. Similarly, how people choose to make others feel is their business and how you choose to make yourself feel is your business. Mind your business with a smile, which you are doing. Move out with a smile. Some things are not meant to be understood or worth wasting time on. Clear the account and keep moving forward with your head held high up. Don’t get stuck in the rut again, pls
JOctober 8, 2014 at 4:24 am #66114
Thanks for your post. I am not going to answer your question whether you should walk away or stay but I will try to provide some clarity around this question.
First of all, I am sorry for your suffering. On top of your own fears, you must be battling a constant guilt for being harsh to a guy who is willing to look past your insecurities. Give yourself and your partner a big hug. These sort of men are hard to find in current times 🙂
What is your biggest fear ? What will happen if this fear comes true ? Whats the worst that can happen ? Now work backwards and see if you can incorporate these findings into your daily living. Most often our fear disables us when we feel that we are not good enough and wont be able to handle whatever comes our way. Now ask yourself this question – is this really true ? Did you not handle coming into this life when so many other babies dont take their first breath for whatever causes, getting education, going to work, getting into your first relationship ? You eat food everyday despite being unsure if one of the bugs in the food could lead you to sickness etc ? When we are able to put so much faith in the unseeable, what is different about your current situation ?
Always remember one thing – nothing in this life is under our control except for our reactions. Our reactions stem from our predominant thoughts. These thoughts create our reality. Now, You decide what sort of reality you wish to create – one of misery or one of facing your fears and marching ahead with your head held high up ? Our thoughts are influenced by everything around us including our speech, how we treat people, what we read, what we eat or do, what we tell ourselves, what we write etc. Get into a habit of looking at these thoughts regularly as you will realise where the problem stems from.
Being nasty to your partner, distrusting him, looking at future in a pessimistic way etc is running away from yourself. You are not doing disservice to anyone else except yourself. If you dont learn kindness, compassion, self love and develop faith in other beings, you will keep getting stuck in similar situations repetitively until you learn these lesons. So why not try to learn these lessons in current relationship ?
Can I suggest that you see a counsellor or a local doctor to see if they can help you move past your anxiety related concerns ? You sound like a young soul so facing your fears and moving past them shouldnt be too hard.
You are worth it all so give yourself a chance 🙂
JasmineOctober 8, 2014 at 1:42 am #66109
Glad to know that your happiness doesnt depend on someone else 🙂
Sorry but I am going to challenge you again here. Why do you love his company and him ? What does that give you ? If you were hitting a downward slope while you met this person and continued on to hit rock bottom, what does that show or tell ? Be honest with yourself. I dont personally need your truth 🙂
Sometimes, our mind plays games with us so that it can go back to its comfort zone of keeping us insane and in constant state of attachment.
Best of luck on your journey. Dont lose your positive streak for anyone ever.
JOctober 7, 2014 at 11:20 pm #66100
So good to hear that you have found yourself again after hitting rock bottom 🙂 life has an amazing way of getting us back on track when we refuse to learn the easy way.
When you have a quiet moment and feeling your most positive, ask yourself this question – Do I really need this ex in my life ? Do I want to go back to the same place I was a few months ago ? Do I want to be “dumped” again ?
Your love may be true and unconditional but does the other person value you for who you are with your ups and downs ?
In the higher consciousness, all of our energies interact closely. Has it ever occurred to you why you feel so good around some people and some people drain you or make you go crazy ? I will let you reflect on this.
Dont set yourself up for more pain, mate. You are worth all the happiness. Keep your head held high up and keep marching forward. You will find what you are looking for once you drop the expectations or need for outcomes that you desire.
JasmineOctober 6, 2014 at 6:57 am #66035
Thanks for your post. I had to sit on it for a few hours. What a strong spirit you are ? Just amazing. There is so much clarity in your words but perhaps, you are not feeling the same clarity in your mind at this present moment.
I am so sorry for your loss. Life is so unpredictable and sometimes, it is hard to make sense of it all. However, from my personal experiences to date, it appears that we only get to deal with life situations that make us stronger and much better version of self. “A straight road doesn’t make skilful drivers”….and similarly, a life without painful incidents doesn’t create a compassionate and kind human being. Keep the happy memories of your wife and focus on what is – a whole life ahead of you waiting to unfold beautifully with other experiences and take you closer to the source of peace and calm that your heart seeks.
Could it be that finding meaningful relationships be difficult as you are still grieving and closed up in your shell ? When you have the strength to be just YOU – unique, quirky, different to 7 billion other humans – you might not feel so lonely and disconnected. Learn to open up when you meet people as there is no other person like you in this world. You are as unique as it gets so there is really no competition and there is no place for judgments, rejection or criticisms from anyone else. No one knows you better than YOU.
So start by being kind to yourself and I assure you that forming connections or making new relationships won’t seem like a difficult task in this new town. All of us are looking for authentic relationships but this starts with us – we need to become the most authentic version of self. Get into the habit of offering thanks to everything and everyone and soon the attitude of gratitude will lead to bigger and better things to be grateful about.
Sending you loads of positive energy and wish you all the best for your journey. A beautiful life is awaiting to unfold if you give yourself a chance to just BE.