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Thanks Mike and Inky. What a beautiful advice 🙂
Hi Jo
Thanks for your very negative post. I would like to share my perspective here to remind you as to how you got here in the hope that you will take an ACTION to flip things around. There are no failures in life but how we use the stumbling blocks to take us to higher heights is the difference between you and a successful / happy 51 year old woman.
1. No one else has brought you to where you are today except for YOU. You alone are responsible for the state you are in today and you alone will be responsible for the state you will be in the near future. Sounds scary but lady, it is the ultimate truth. The sooner you realise the truth, easier it will be to move forward and make some small but positive changes.
2. What is with the following terms – Loser, overweight to the boot, no hope, no future, a dead end job, shitty apartment, hate cats – how can you invite any ray of hope or love into your life with such vocabulary ? If you do not show respect for yourself and for what comes out of your mouth / hands, who else will Jo ?
3. The point of living in this life is to understand yourself and what makes JO tick. Everyone has challenges in their life and many do “fail” despite all efforts but but but but…..most still do not give up. They stop, think, reassess their situation and ask for help and take a new route to where they need to go. Have you done the first 3 steps for each stumbling block?
4. The first and foremost trick to turning things around for yourself is to get professional help for weight and mental health issues. Implement small steps to eat healthy, exercise and be nice to yourself and people / animals around you. World treats you very similar to how you treat yourself – READ THIS AGAIN as this needs to make sense to your mind.
5. The pain everywhere in the body and external world is a HUGE signal of how badly you are treating yourself. Your soul is crying out for help. Who will help JO if you do not ? These issues are not going to just disappear until you take actions in the right direction. And self harm is not a way out as there are no guarantees that it will end your suffering in this life. I suggest that you work on developing some self love, respect for Jo. Practice positive self affirmations (Louise Hay, Susan Jeffers, Cheryl Davidson – google them) and perhaps read some positive articles. Inky’s 6th point is very valid. Practicing meditation is another useful tool for bringing more positivity in life.
I will offer prayers for you and hope you will pay particular attention to your thoughts – if it is not a positive or an uplifting one, then you know the cause of your sufferings and there is work that needs to be undertaken.
LOVE LOVE LOVE is what makes the world go around and it all starts with YOU. Can you be more loving towards JO, pls ?
Jasmine