Hi, @inthebliss. I’m sorry this has happened for you and, as with others on this topic, I feel I’m quickly learning this situation to be particularly common and not at all to do with condemning the ‘dumper’ for providing no closure. As with the other cases, it’s so unfair to have someone whom (a) you legitimately have feelings for and whom (b) you want to ameliorate and grow a relationship with act so angrily and selfishly. Downplaying your relational problems is a sign that he is either ashamed of how he has treated you in the past by alleviating the importance of the issues or, worse, he honestly cannot comprehend the issues themselves as ‘issues’. The fact that you ended it and he felt strung along the entire time makes me think he is simply too immature to be in any relationship that does not first and foremost revolve around him. Unfortunately, and as much as we want to, we cannot programme these people how to act, and if we could would we really want to be in love with someone we knew was conforming just for the sake of pleasing us? I doubt so. I’m sad it had to be this way but you should try to find hope, where possible, in the old albeit trite adage of their being ‘plenty more fish in the sea’. We get so focussed on one person and beating to their rhythm that when suddenly they beat out of time we need to go searching for whys in order to just continue living. There are so many other people out there more suited to us who we have not found yet because they too are in similarly underwhelming relationships wondering where we are. Logistically it’s an impossibility to find highly suitable people instantly because these things take time. I just wish this world, this generation would slow the fuck down so we can all have time for meaningful, thoughtful, and considerate human relations. Just an afterthought, but would you mind my asking candidly your ages so I can better process the situation? As with the previous posts, thank you so much for contributing to this topic because it’s really highlighted for me the role of the ‘good dumper’, so to speak. I didn’t know just how prevailing it was because I’ve never experienced it at all.