Hi Heidi,

You say it’s customary to wait until you move into your house? If that’s the case, he is more strict than you.

But, if you can consummate your marriage any time, then you should talk with him about going someplace special like a honeymoon.

I will say that stress can absolutely kill a sex drive. It’s also a great reliever of stress.

The other thing that can happen – and this is a form of stress – is if you are initiating what to him seems like all the time. He may want to be the initiator.

Have you talked about having children, and are you both on the same page?

Having said all that, this is something you will hopefully resolve with him.

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