Hello Julia,

Hope you doing well.

So I have another perspective. Have you noticed what S wants? Now, it probably has nothing to do with you of what S wants. But just wondering have you noticed. If not, then try to notice.

The point is people mostly think about their wants. There is a reason I am writing this. I am glad if it helps you and that is one of my reasons but I have my personal reasons that I am writing and yes I am thinking of me at this point.

Find what S wants and put it with your wants and present it to her. It will work. TO give you an example: my roommate doesn’t really care about keeping the bathroom clean. I had roommates before and usually I tell them but its me telling them and they don’t really take it well. So, this time this was my strategy. I know she doesn’t like to spend money. So, I told her (which is true) that homeowner will charge us for cleaning fee so it is important since we both don’t want to be charged that we keep it clean especially since she is moving out in a month. Ofcourse, she didn’t argue she could see her benefit.

Find her wants and put it with your wants. It will work.