Hi Caring Guy,

This will be unpopular advice, but it is sound.

Your prime purpose right now is for the kids.

If your relationship with the GF isn’t working swimmingly on its own, cast her loose. Don’t work on that relationship at all. Focus solely on the kids. When we have one focus, one thing, and are solely devoted to it and not divided, Life works itself out. Miraculously. All else is a mere distraction.

Later, when the kids are adults, you will have your pick of awesome relationships to work with and choose from. Do you know why? Because you will now be the Master of Relationships. But it starts with your Family.

Just my Opine!