Hi,

I want to make you aware of some really wonderful facts.

The first of these facts is that you have a lot of time to solve this problem (don’t waste it).
You could easily have a decade or more to find a mate and start a family if that is what you desire. You could easily have 3 decades or more to get established in a career (or two careers). You could easily still be alive in 5 decades given modern health technology. If you are comparing yourself to others in their early 30’s remember that some of them may be in jobs or marriages they are not crazy about.

The very best thing you can do is to try to grab hold of something that you are inspired about and see if you can make some creative plans around it. Getting into action will help whereas stressing over your “failure” will not help you.

It may be that you have to deal with your depression first. Even so, bear in mind that you have the rest of you life and it is too early to pronounce yourself a failure. I am a generation older than you and I worry about the things I did not do and running out of time to do others. I love telling people in their 30s that time is on their side if they grab hold of it.

The big thing you need to feel good about is that you are thinking about not wanting to waste your life at an early age. I would guess that a huge number of people do not do this. You may find that you need to go through some of the “boring” job experiences and other scaring stuff to get to something better. But if you care this much about being successful and not wasting your life, you won’t. Just make sure to keep taking thoughtful actions. Sitting still won’t get you anywhere. If you make a mistake you can correct it. That is how the greatest achievers do it.