Mermaid,

Consider asking your boyfriend to give you lots more gentle touching. Its normal to be afraid when we’ve uprooted, moved, because many questions and curiosities, fears and the like. Being in love is like a blossom, but how could it, if you don’t get a chance to relax? Like, how could you just smile and play if you’re scared and in your brain?

If he spends some time being nurturing, and not just verbal assurances, but gentle reaching, caressing, and so forth, perhaps you will get those sweet reminders you need to feel safe. From there, its easy to play again.

If he’s not interested or capable, I think inky’s advice is spot on. Establish yourself, tour the countryside, and so forth. With or without a partner, we need time to settle, be peaceful and play.

Also, if/when he does, make sure you save some of that playtime for just you. Like,if he does helps you relax, don’t just play with him. 🙂 Go explore the things you want to see and do, and if he wants to come too, fine! If not, fine!

With warmth,
Matt