Smoking is not your root problem it seems – but a coping mech you became addicted to. Start out one day at a time by attending a 12 step cessation program.
Where are you hormonally? Are you younger – older – etc. Hormones create a disturbance for many a people. I had pmdd and then severe perimenopause for yrs.
Your living situation is stressful. If you attend a CODA (codapendent) no more 12 step it may help as well. Your fam is very dependent on you – and it is destroying your quality of life. If you can get to some meetings, it will help you to get back to a rational, enjoyable life. But you have to attend regularly and work the program.
Do any programs exist (Wounded Warior) in your line of service to help you adjust?
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