Steve,

Its not that being heartfelt is a bad thing, but perhaps honing those flirting skills a little, letting your inner flirt mature, grow up. Rather than “hey, we seem compatible, I am interested, I know you” which is pretty heavy, consider next time something aimed at helping her laugh, perhaps inviting her to something magical, something light. Less “construction mode”, more “sparkle mode”. 🙂

Or, perhaps try to accept that if you don’t want that, that being so concrete and direct is just who you are, that’s fine. But you’ll have to wait for someone that is looking for a big meal, ready for that, rather than someone looking for an appetizer.

Good luck!

With warmth,
Matt