Sukanya,

It really doesn’t sound like your issue. Consider how we all make mistakes, all mess up in little ways over and over. Why does he boil up? That’s the source, not your flubbing, putting too much salt in the stew, stumbling over the carpet edge, and so forth. To be frank, dear sister, perhaps you cry because deep down, you know it is unjust to have such a callous response to your very human, very lovable mistakes. It would be different if the mistake was “stabbed him in the eye with a spoon because I was staring at the stars”, then his anger would make sense. But you mated a black sock with a blue sock and he goes haywire? Instead of crying, try pushing back. Let him know, demand, you deserve kindness even when you do something imperfectly. Maybe you’ll cry less, maybe he’ll learn to be kinder.

And this “I just gave up” nonsense he’s putting on your shoulders… gave up what, trying to hammer you gently into becoming a perfect wife? Most of this doesn’t sound like your issue, dear sister, and I think you know that, but perhaps you don’t want to admit that someone you love is being a jerk to you? I’d cry too. And feel scared to do anything, fearing his lash. Consider googling “emotional abuse”, and see if it rings any bells. You might be surprised at just how “not broken” you really are.

With warmth,
Matt