Hey R,

I feel the same as you do. It is now 9 months since i and my ex broke up but i stuck in the past and i m still missing him. I am asking the same question everyday if it is normal that after 9 months still being in love. I am living now in a foreign country (he is native here). My friends say that what i feel is not love but just being alone in a foreign country so i have to turn back to my country then everything will be fine. I am not sure if this is love, or low self-esteem or whatever. But i am waking up everyday with his name in my mind. He has moved on already and he is dating with a new girl, and i am feeling a big pain inside. I dont know what to do.

And about your age issues i turned 30 and it is also a turning point for a woman. I can understand your feelings. All my friends around me have either married or have a long term happy relationships. I feel unsuccessful and blaming on me about the breakup. Because i figured out after this break-up that i am a very difficult person to be satisfied and i m not good at showing my feelings and my love. I feel like it was me who destroyed this relationship and feeling guilty is making me stuck in the past.

we have to concentrate positive things and all the advices above are right, i hope we can apply them practically..

Take care,

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