Love is a sort of madness. It takes away good judgement and replaces it with feelings that sometimes makes no sense.
You believe you are in a long distance relationship but you don’t want to be in another long distance relationship.
He complains when you don’t take his advice and yet, you say that he doesn’t tell you what to do.
You tell him that you don’t like that he is still on the dating website and he gives you excuses to still be there.

I have found that you can’t expect the person to change (although some, in the future, may change).
All the complaining and talking won’t do anything but build resentment for making someone do something they aren’t ready for.

With these things in mind, it may be time to cool things off.
I don’t mean to break things off. But, to step back and get some perspective on this relationship.
Feelings can get in the way of good judgement. So, just cool things off a little to see if this is the right fit.