Hi David,

Sorry to hear about the pain you are currently feeling. I think that it didn’t help that your adventure was cancelled so it seemed that she moved on with her life, got to experience a new culture, meet new people, and you didn’t. Is it possible to plan some kind of similiar project in the future? Even if you did get back together maybe you will be always wondering about this adventure that you didn’t have. Now that you are single and uncommitted it’s the perfect opportunity to travel abroad and open yourself up to new people.

With regards to your ex getting in contact again, I did the same when I broke up with my ex. I contacted him around 4 months breaking up with him. The main motivation was the guilt I felt for breaking up and realizing how deeply I felt for him (though I didn’t want to get back together with him). For some reason it took me a while for these feelings to hit me as I guess I was enjoying my new found freedom. The situation with your ex might be different. Anyway my ex told me that we couldn’t be friends. And that was that, we both moved on. Even if you got back together again, do you really think you could trust her? It wouldn’t be the same as it was before. I know it’s hard but like others say No contact is best strategy for you to move forward. It may not feel like it now, but the pain will lessen with time.