Hi Steve,

First off, I am really sorry if anything I am about to say sounds harsh. I’ve been reading your different threads and have commented some here and there, and feel you’ve gotten a lot of great advice. I also think you sound like a really great guy. Truly!!

I think you need to lighten up about this whole thing. Just enjoy yourself, your family, your friends, your life. From what you’ve described of the relationship you had with the woman you can’t shake – you didn’t really KNOW her. You knew some, and filled in the blanks of all the rest, probably with qualities you WANT. People are their most charming selves in the beginning! Especially when they’re kind of aloof. So yea, it’s easy to see how she kind of became your ideal woman, and how you would wonder and wish that you had met her sooner. I’m sorry your ex-wife did not deserve a good man like yourself. As I said already, I think you sound like a catch…loyal, expressive, caring – you are bound to find someone (or be found by someone) who IS deserving of you. Probably when you’re not looking or least expect it.

Good luck Steve, keep us posted. 🙂