Hi Sassypants,

I have also been in relationships where my heart hasn’t been in it, whereby physically I did not feel satisfied with my partner. As I felt my needs weren’t being met in one relationship, I would jump to another to fill the void. I would feel pulled toward certain ex’s for one night stands (while in a relationship with someone else) because I would just want to feel something, some sort of excitement that lacked in the other relationship. It was a vicious cycle. Though I am not saying that this is what’s going on with you, what I will say is that not recognizing my needs and what I really wanted from a relationship had left me stuck in relationship after relationship, making bad decisions that not only would hurt them but also myself and my own happiness in the long run. I am only now dealing with the pain caused from the aftermath of each of those relationships and what my bad decisions put both parties through. It is a long and tough process, but my happiness is now that important to me that I could not run away from it any longer. My advice to you would be if you are no longer happy with the relationship you are in reflect, journal and try to recognize what you truly want and need. I hope my experiences can help you in someway.

With warmth,

Tiny Butterfly