Spidey …

I feel it’s my duty to answer your thread, as you’ve done so on a few of mine.
It’s obvious that you’re really into this girl.
I think we both know in the ideal world, you wouldn’t want her to be your friend.
You’d want more.

It’s so difficult to be logical and honest with yourself in this kind of position, so I’m just going to tell you what you know already, but don’t want to believe.

You have made it very clear to this girl that you want to get to know her (in whatever fashion).
I know you’ve tried to control yourself to avoid appearing overly interested, but I’m sure she can tell you like her and are keen to spend time with her. You make yourself available to her at the drop of a text. You’re like a dog to a bone. This happens to a lot of guys.

See, she knows that you are interested in her, but – like you said – she isn’t reciprocating.
Regardless of her busy schedule, if she wanted to spend time with you, she would.
She has already told you she just wants to be friends and, like most girls do, has also given you mixed signals and messed with your head a little by saying that she broke up with her boyfriend. You assume she was saying this as some kind of hint, but once again… she’s had time to get to know you more and doesn’t care enough. Maybe your brain just jumped to a conclusion on that one.

I hate to be blunt, but it’s necessary.
I’m sure you’re so infatuated with this girl because she’s super attractive.
The reality is, girls like that know they have a lot of options and so she’s probably happy to play the field.
You need to be honest with yourself and admit you wanted her as a girlfriend figure.
It’s hard to have an attractive friend of the opposite sex, especially when you’re seeking a relationship.
You’ve described this girl as amazing, etc, so it’s obvious you think highly of her.

When I was single last year, I had a couple of dates that went amazingly well.
I don’t consider myself deluded or easily deceived.
However, those girls basically blew me off (haha – not in that way) and I never saw them again. At the time, they suggested another meeting. It never happened.
I really didn’t understand, but the truth is we don’t always know what someone is thinking.
Maybe it’s as simple as you’re not this girl’s type.

Don’t take it personally or think you need to change to impress her.
Someone else will appreciate you for who you are.
Although, anyone can always do with some improvement.

But you need to let this one go because you’re missing out on other opportunities and it’s clear that nothing will happen with this girl. If she contacts you in the future, don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap again. It may be best to ignore her, although I know that will be very difficult for you. But if she suggests something and doesn’t follow through AGAIN, because she’s ‘busy’, you’ll feel disappointed all over again.

Hope that helps buddy x