Hey Emmakaru07,

Having been in a similar situation, I can emphasis with some of what you are going through. On one hand, you want to avoid being a tattertale but on the other, it’s like taking repeated emotional punches without the opportunity to fight back. In the end, I decided to say something in my exit interview because if I didn’t, he is just going to do it to someone else. Whether management did anything with that feedback is one thing but I can hold my head high because I did something about it.

If you are going down this path, a suggestion I have is that when providing feedback, the focus should be on the management style and how it affected your performance rather than how an individual (i.e. your manager) mistreated you. For example, instead of saying how your boss spread lies about you, consider rephrasing it to something like “when performance is poor, it is not always clear to the team what we can do to improve performance. This often lead to frustration and low morale within the team as we all wanted to do better but lack direction on how we can achieve this.”

Hope that helps and good luck with your next job.