I am so sorry for the both of you. I can understand the loss of trust for men after going through what you both went through. I have also been dumped after being in a 4 year relationship (5 months post breakup). Although we had our own separate places, we did kind of live together but our things were separate and we were not engaged to be married.

I know its hard to think that its going to be difficult to trust men after what we went through especially when you were so close to getting married, I can tell you that maybe it is better that it ended now than it ending in divorce. A friend of mine is stuck in a marriage because he thought he “owed it” to his girlfriend to marry her. Now he is miserable and does not know what to do. He knows he made a big mistake and is seeking a divorce lawyer as we speak. I know its not easy because your heart is broken and you are angry at your ex-fiance, but time will heal itself. I have forgiven the guy who broke my heart and finally able to move on to better things. I am hoping my career finally takes off and I can be my independent self again. If you need time to heal and grieve, go for it. We all have our own ways of grieving. As long as you can understand why something happened and learn from it, all this heartbreak will not be in vain. There is a purpose and a bigger picture for whatever we go through.

We need to pick ourselves up and do what we need to do for ourselves because no one can help us but ourselves. In my 5 months of grieving, I am finally able to do what I need to do for myself. Don’t let them define us. When your next relationship comes, just don’t make the same mistakes. I will definitely keep my guard up until I am certain that the relationship is definitely going somewhere and he just won’t pick up and leave when the going gets tough. I hope this helps. We are all in this together.