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  • February 7, 2015 at 10:15 am #72479
    Ashley
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    I wrote this to let the feeling of anger and frustration to go but if you have a story about a complex living environment or dealing with awkward roommates; even happy memories and good times too, please share 🙂

    I don’t know where this fits but I am going to try to start here. I am sort of in a rough living situation right now, it could be worst of course, but it’s been a challenge. I begin to live where I am by moving in with a friend I grew close to by sharing a class together and talking to each other when we saw each other. As it went, both of us were separated by school stuff and broke communication more as time goes on we are not friends like we used to be. However, things boiled into something that shifted life and what changed living here was her girlfriend moving in. I didn’t get a heads up about her living here and it wasn’t a problem until time grew and there was no reason to let it go, yet I am forgiving her for the reason for living life is something we can stop dwelling on for us to accept new modes of living even that would mean with or without us here.
    I realize that a break in communication does lead to be damaging on many levels and even when it’s clearly uncertain what a problem is potentially arise.
    Focusing on school and involving myself outside of my comfortable zone is probably the best thing I can do. But I live in a background in this apartment most of the time. Just by living here I found out that it’s one (I won’t have to sense it be profound) but an experience that is taught me about how life is going on whenever you might have and it doesn’t matter what you say because it’s beautifully climaxing, so I don’t need to turn to stop and make persons around you drop for what they are involved with because you haven’t reasoned with your crap yet and figured out the problem. Why keep an illusion of a miserable reality when you revision your potential solution more than likely, able to live outside yourself if you can let the bedlam go. The situation is going to work out, I trust this.

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    February 8, 2015 at 9:13 pm #72531
    Walter
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    It is good to stay positive. I too am living with a roommate and have just been accused of eating his food when I went and bought and prepared the meal for myself. I try to let things that bother me pass by and focus on better aspects of my life. Unfortunately for me at this time it is a little harder to do so. His girlfriend lives with us rent free and seems to have taken over the entire space leaving me with mainly just my room. I have always tended to keep to myself and well moving to this new city has kind of thrown me out of whack in a sense and over the past two years I battled a fairly serious depression. While my current situation is upsetting I am learning a lot about myself and growing even if it is slowly. It really bothers me that things would break down to this point, but it seems that as soon as the lease is up I will be finding a new place to live. I will not think about it to much at this time and just try to stay happy.

    February 9, 2015 at 4:34 pm #72561
    Curtis
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    Ashley,

    I understand what you’re talking about with your roommate situation. I’ve recently moved out of my old apartment where I was in a super similar situation. I was living with my friend who I’ve known since I was 3 and his girlfriend moved in with us somewhat suddenly. Now, I like his girlfriend because I recognize that she’s a nice person beneath her hostile exterior but it makes a small apartment a really difficult place to live when this new person is making rules and yelling at people. She wasn’t willing to compromise on anything and would accuse me and others of stuff even after we told her we didn’t do something. I know that even though she acts like she doesn’t care what anyone thinks she actually cares a whole lot and that’s why she comes off the way she does. I feel that I must be sensitive to this fact when I decide how I feel about her but not when deciding what I think about her. I know she’s kind of mean but at the end of the day I think she’d pull through for me.

    Nowadays though I’m living with another old friend and it’s a little awkward! Ha. We’ve also been seperated by time and circumstance even though we spent some of our best years together in our late teens and early twenties. I think that he’s under a lot of work pressure much like I was about 3 or 4 months ago and it’s affecting the way he interacts with others. I’m still recovering from the stress both put upon me by myself and others over a year or two’s time. It’s difficult becoming a normal social person again but we can do it! Especially when we have a friend that’s willing to try and put that friendship back into the situation. I just gotta stay fueled up emotionally by talking to my old friends and then projecting those energies back onto him!

    February 14, 2015 at 9:51 pm #72766
    Ashley
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    Great guys, it’s always nice to hear friends staying positive and resilient in a tight situation. This forum is very nice to have the emotional support that you are looking for. Thanks for your replies and I hope both of you are doing well :))

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