You can give him another chance, if you feel it may pay off. You can give him as many chances as you like.

I’m serious: you know the risks here. You’re not naive to the cycle of abusive behaviour, you know this may just him playing honeymoon behaviour until you reconcile and then he can mess with you again. Or maybe he realises he made a mistake and will make a genuine effort to change.

What you risk is time – the time you spend trying to make it work with someone who may never be good for you. But you have a lifetime. It’s ok to risk losing some time sometimes. The only other risk is that every time you listen to his honeymoon patter and forgive him and give him another chance, you get enmeshed a little more deeply in what may be a spiral to heck. Will it be easier to say goodbye next time he’s driven you to the edge? Can you look in your heart and say honestly, this is really his last chance?

You deserve better that what he’s been giving you. Much better. Know that, and use it as your compass now and in the future.