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Rejection highlights our insecurities, it’s the nature of rejection, looking for a reason that we were rejected and highlighting all the things in ourselves that we feel may have let us down or that will lead us to being rejected again in the future.
Truth is all these flaws you mention are like building a big protective barrier around yourself, if you highlight these flaws in yourself you may feel as though you are protecting yourself from further hurt and preempting what others may think, which is probably far from the truth. I doubt when people meet you they think God he’s really short and you can tell he’s from a middle income family?!
Start taking steps towards loving yourself, do things that you enjoy for you, take part in activities that make you feel alive, surround yourself with people that care about you and your happiness and break the cycle of negative thoughts. Once you truly love yourself you won’t feel the need to be validated by others, we have to learn to love from the inside out. It’s hard and it’s a journey I am taking myself at the minute. I find sometimes its easier to look for validation from others instead of looking into myself for the answer. But the more I kick the habit the more I love the decisions I make and the less I doubt myself, and I’m happier overall in all aspects of my life.
I know the more I love myself the more able I am to love others, and the love is more real.
Have faith in yourself, all the best x