What’s the dilemma? You have made clear you do not believe in the possibility of changing your approach, and it fits in with how in your view relationships should happen (a love at first sight kind of experience). Even though you’re aware it’s unlikely to work, you are determined to hold on to this view.

So what’s the dilemma? You know what you want, you know it’s not likely to happen, you don’t believe in change, so there you go. Good luck with that.

I hope it happens for you.

PS: I don’t agree with you that you can’t “rewire” your emotions or the way you express them. But what I believe isn’t actually important here.

• This reply was modified 9 years, 8 months ago by Will.