Hi Jes,

Thank you so much for checking in with me! 🙂 Following the last meeting there was not much change, no major contact/outreaching from her. My boyfriend requested another meeting with her to discuss her outburst against me, where again she remained negative, turning every question back on him and criticising him, down to the way he looked!! He said he asked her out straight what her problem was with me and she could not give any fair or reasonable straight answer. It again did not really end with any conclusion. He met his Dad after who advised him to stop trying to ask her to change or get an apology from her, that it wont happen, that he needs to concentrate on his life and his relationship with me and our future. It was refreshing to hear his father’s point of view. I guess we both learned from this advice to stop trying to seek closure from her, rather to attain peace through ourselves and our relationship together. Its definately a new experience for me, as I always would have seeked closure directly from the person that there was an issue with (which in itself was rare as I do not come across many instinces of conflict in my day to day life.)

I guess we both realise that she wont change, she wont do what we seek and apologise for her actions. I do in a way feel like realising this has almost lifted a weight from me, stupid as it sounds. We wont let her cause conflict between us or seep into our happiness like poison. I’m happy that my relationship with his parents is good and his with my family is great also. I’m also thankful that he wont listen to her negativity and sees me for the person I am, and not the person she would like me to be!!

I hope you are keeping well and living in harmony, besides having the burden of a negative sister in law also! xx