Hi starfish,

Well, this is what can happen if you date a daddy. You don’t know the cast of characters he’s had in the past.

Listen, I told my own sister, “You are Just the Girlfriend. Not only will they not hear you, but they will resent your opinion because after all, you are Just the Girlfriend. Wait until the youngest is an adult. Then, if you marry the guy, you can fill the new role ~ of a wife and mother.”

“Just the Girlfriend” sounds harsh, but that is what it is at the end of the day. My sister didn’t like what I said, but did agree with me.

For you, the texting itself is not a problem. What she wrote is actually not a problem. If he doesn’t like it, then it is a problem. HIS problem. Not your problem. HIS problem.

Be the girlfriend if you want to be. Fun, happy, supportive, loving. Not complaining about the mother of his children. He will love you for it!

I know what I’m saying is harsh, but it is what I’ve said to my sister and would say to my daughter.

P.S. Hi Matt! 🙂

• This reply was modified 9 years, 7 months ago by Inky.