Starfish,

Its normal to feel upset when we feel threatened. You’re being a little dramatic, and seem startled and angry she could do such a thing. Five kids five moms five texts? Is five your favorite number? Why not thirty kids? Thirty texts? A hundred?

My teacher said its fine to climb mountains, but don’t try to climb molehills. Instead, step over them. Do you feel a deep insecurity that he still has feelings for her? Or are you just pissed off someone poked into your happy dance? If its the latter, suck it up, we all have baggage. If its the former, talk it out, hug it out with him. Face whatever is there kindly, sort it out. She is an ex after all. Leave her and her “appropriateness” behind you where it belongs. Don’t you have brighter songs to sing?

Sorry if you wanted some allies for a war with his kid’s mother. We respect you too much to do that. Rather, its OK that you’re freaking out a little, scared, but don’t go overboard. Just address it, move on.

With warmth,
Matt