Dear Christy:
Thank you for the above comment about my perspective being fascinating- it pleased me to read this. I read your story above just now. I very much agree with you. It is a scientific fact that “Our brains are biologically wired for connection” as you put it. Absolutely. Since your ex boyfriend, you wrote, had a fear of abandonment and anxiety, no wonder he soon connected with another woman. Babies, children… and adults need social connection with at least one other person (and sometimes a pet insead) to SOOTHE their anxiety. The separation from him, no wonder, increased his anxiety and motivated him to find another connection. You are correct, you learned from the experience, problems of interpersonal relaionship need to be worked on in the context of an interpersonal relationship.

I also agree with you about “if it was meant to be”- you wrote: “There is no plan, but there are consequences for your actions.” Absolutely. There is no plan. I wonder how you are feeling currenly about your ex boyfriend and how did or do you find the courage to look at things AS THEY ARE. How rare it is, isn’t it… people, including myself, seeing what they want to see, what is convenient at the moment to see (the trees, not the forest as I mentioned in my post)… I think you captured a forest in your post!

anita