You know what fixes every ail? Change every ‘should’ for ‘prefer’. I have had those moments where even though I felt I was giving because it is who I was and I did not expect recriprocity, I would suddenly feel enraged and start thinking ‘why does nobody treat me the way I treat others?!’

The reason is: we all choose our behaviour. I have chosen to be giving and I do gain joy from it. Other people have the right to choose not be giving. You have the right to choose whether you continue to associate with them. If you do not enjoy your relationship with them, you have the right to no longer be in relationship with them. But everybody has the right to choose whether they are kind or cruel or compassionate or discompassionate – and you have that choice too. Live by your own value and expect others to live by theirs. There is not a right or wrong way to be, this is merely a difference of opinion. What I consider to be ‘morally right’, others might consider to be overkill, but I shall stick to what I believe and allow others to live as they wish too.