Dear lavender27:
You are very welcome. Regarding another’s comment to your post: “It seems that right now you are wallowing in self pity.” and your response to that comment: “I’m sorry i looked like a very self centered whiner in the above post.”- this is my thoughts about this:

I re- read your original post and I did not see self pity in it. I saw in it statements of facts. The reality that your childhood was miserable is not self pity, it is the truth. The fact that some others may have it worse (I don’t know about that) does not change the fact that you have experienced misery.

I hope you do feel empathy toward yourself. Self empathy is necessary for healing. Self empathy is a positive thing. Self pity gives a very negative connotation to self empathy.

Please do evaluate anything and everything you read and decide what is true and what is not, if you can. Just because somebody (Including myself) states something- even with best intentions- doesn’t make it so. You decide.

Take care:
anita