Hey Lotus,

Congrats on getting a job on graduating. You worked really hard and you made it.

Now the question is, what next? I know that things must seem harder now in a different way – it must feel strange going to office and just working away on a computer without feeling much of a rapport or connection with the people you work with, after all one spends so many hours of their day there. Obviously it can be quite a bummer! I totally understand it must feel kinda stiff and isolating, especially after you worked so hard – then that whole other issue of relationship problems in long-distance – it gets harder to stay in touch, share the troubles and feel lighter and comforted. I wont say i have the perfect answer for you but all i can say is try to make it a point to have some fun on the weekends with some activity, skype with your significant other once a week atleast and keep texting/calling. Besides, its not like you will work in the same office forever anyway. Eventually, you will have a transition and things will improve.

I suggest you learn to unwind better at the end of a long day – have some healing rituals and just relax, watch some good show, call/text a good friend and then go meet friends in the weekends. Things will get better over time but i really think you gotta focus on work-life balance. And if you are indeed truly unhappy for like many months, even a year, then perhaps indeed you need to look into finding employment in another department. I know its easier said than done but for now, get focused on doing your work well, trying to interact more with your colleagues, especially those outside your team nearer to your age. Talk more to the lady/guy who sits near you. I know its different to have a friend around but for now, make it a point to interact, smile. It is tiring indeed but sometimes in these situations, we have to grow outside of our usual tendencies. The more you close within, the more this depression will engulf you.

This situation isnt forever and you can come out of it well.

Regards,
Moon