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jdkm
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Thank you both for replying!

Anita, I agree about the possible consequences of this being quite serious, but in this regard I have always been very careful, and will continue to be.

You both raise valid points. However a commitment is not an option right now as I’m in a situation where we’re all going away in a few months (we’re postgraduate students in an international university). I don’t think there is anything bad with sleeping around if you’re careful, no one is otherwise committed and intentions are made clear at the start.

My main concern has been because I feel like I’ve started craving that meaningless connection a bit too much or too often with anyone (as long as I like them physically). What I meant by saying I should be harder on myself is that I spent a lot of time working on being nice to myself, accepting imperfection, learning to love myself etc after the break up, and learnt to justify most of my actions as long as I don’t hurt anybody else, but now I feel maybe i’ve gone a bit too far and should justify less.

The answer is probably right that I should just stop like you said, but it’s turning out to not be that easy – especially as since I said, commitment is not an option right now.

Thanks again for the time you took to read this.
JD