Hey Libby,

Ughhh, what a nightmare. Sometimes family can be the worst–nobody ever says that, but it’s true. I’ve been through a very similar situation where I had to cut out toxic family members, it’s not easy. But here’s the thing: I’m not sure you ever really get over times of hurt. But they do become less and less as time goes on. I’m sure your mother’s words triggered the past, and all of that past hurt. Remember tho, those are her words, not yours. And she has her own issues to even think dropping you from her life is ok. (Also, that’s what abusive people do–when all else fails, they threaten. Don’t take it too much too heart, as hard as it is. It’s a tactic, not a promise)

I wouldn’t be so hard on yourself. Accept that hurt will arise from time to time, and know the triggers. Nurture yourself. Feed your soul. Be grateful that you knew enough to take the necessary steps to ensure your happiness and that of your family. That’s no easy feat. If I were you, I would keep telling myself this over and over again.

This too shall pass.

Take care,
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